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Messages from the Other Side: Healing Through a Wider Perspective
by Leslie Platner, RN, LFH, C Hom | Energy Healer & Matrix Energetics Practitioner
When a Parent Passes, Memories Surface
Whether or not you felt deeply loved as a child, memories of your life with your parents often resurface powerfully after their passing. Some may be sweet and nostalgic, while others range from mildly painful to deeply traumatic.
Sorting through old photos and home videos, or speaking with siblings to prepare for a memorial, can awaken memories long-stored in the nervous system—memories held in the body and field, waiting to be seen, felt, and integrated.
Inherited Patterns and Protective Coping Mechanisms
As these memories arise, so too may the stories and beliefs you’ve carried about yourself and your family. Often, they are rooted in generational patterns passed on through words, family culture, emotional undercurrents, or even in utero.
Maybe you internalized that you needed to be perfect to be loved. Perhaps you became critical, withdrawn, or hypervigilant. Maybe you learned to complain just to be noticed. These are all natural survival strategies the mind creates to protect the self.
What I’ve discovered—especially since both my parents have transitioned—is that deep healing becomes more accessible after a loved one has passed.
Healing and Forgiveness Beyond the Veil
From my understanding and experience as an intuitive healer and student of consciousness, those who have crossed over into the next realm gain a “meta-view”—a panoramic awareness of their Earthly life and soul journey.
In this expanded awareness, they are freed from the pain, limitations, and trauma they experienced while alive. Near-death experiences (NDEs) frequently affirm this: people describe being flooded with love, clarity, and a deep recognition that even the painful parts of life serve a higher purpose.
From that place, forgiveness and compassion arise naturally—both for themselves and for those they may have hurt.
Loved Ones Visiting from the Next Realm: Books and Personal Experiences
When our daughter Genny died, I read many books about the life-beyond, seeking to come to terms with her passing. One day, while I was standing in the kitchen, she appeared to me—radiant, and light. She told me she was happy to be released from the discomfort of the physical body and had no desire to return. She was so content and joyful with her new freedom. That visitation relieved the guilt and self-recrimination I had been holding as a mother.
I found solace in several spiritual books:
The Light World by Heather Niderost – an inspiring book in which a Heather’s son who had been killed by a car when he was 10 channeled his experience through his her. He describes what happened when he died and found himself suddenly out of his body. He explains the purpose of life and uses quotes from the Baha’i Faith to explain the attributes of the soul and our relationships with those who have gone on. He also appeared in different ways to other family members.
“Those who have ascended have different attributes from those who are still on earth, yet there is no real separation... Pray for them as they pray for you.” – Abdu’l-Bahá, Star of the West, Vol 8
Life After Life and Closer to the Light by Raymond Moody – Collections of NDE stories, including those of children, that affirm the continuity of life beyond the physical and the penetrating insights gained.
These stories remind us that death is not an end, but is like being released from a cage into a broad expanse—where Love is the rule and reconciliation is possible.
Emotional Release and Connecting with a Parent’s Higher Self
In my healing work, I’ve guided many clients to connect with a deceased parent’s “white light” self—the eternal aspect beyond personality and pain.
This connection often leads to profound healing. Clients begin to feel seen and understood by the soul of their parent in a way they never experienced in life. It opens a pathway for forgiveness, integration, emotional and physical restoration.
My Mother’s Presence at the Cemetery
After my mom’s recent passing, I felt her essence so strongly at her burial site in Clear Creek Cemetery, Grass Valley. The day was shiny with early Spring, blossoms were just blooming pink, and the surrounding hills were peaceful.
As people gathered near the gravesite, I became aware of my mom's presence above me. I felt the power of her “ascendancy” – that’s the word that came to me – her spiritual stature. It was so intense that I felt as if I would faint and I stumbled. Luckily my daughter moved to steady me.
In life, my mom was humble, never fully seeing her worth. Now she seemed to emanate a power from her unbounded soul. She felt like a giant.
Dost thou reckon thyself a puny form when within thee the universe is folded? (Baha’u’llah,The Seven Valleys and the Four Valleys pg 31-36)
Letting Go of Old Roles and Patterns
Shortly after the memorial, I felt both of my parents visiting me. Though they had been divorced, there was much camaraderie, and love. They told me that even though they couldn't give me the emotional support I needed during their Earth lives, they were fully present now—offering care, support, and deep nurturance.
As the oldest child and a daughter, I had always felt responsible for helping my mom. But… who had helped me?
This energetic visitation began unwinding deep patterns of striving—the subconscious belief that I had to earn love by being responsible, and caring for others. As I allowed myself to receive the care I always longed for, something shifted in my field. I could feel my nervous system soften. A new sense of relaxation and relief emerged.
Transmuting Pain into Light
What a gift, to feel and hear my parents’ love so clearly.
And what a deeper gift, to recognize that my sensitivity, empathy, and attunement to others came from this wound—from the lack of nurturance, a gift wrapped in pain.
This is the essence of the healing journey:
To find the gold in the grief.
To find the soul’s expansion in the struggle.
To feel the love that is always there, even when it is veiled from us.
When we drop into our heart’s and ask for help from our ancestors or loved ones—they answer. They are not gone. They have just shifted into a realm where love and healing are always available.
If you are struggling with grief, guilt, anger or other emotions that are surfacing after the loss of a loved one, please feel free to contact me. I can accompany you to find your way through to the hidden gifts and insights. What does the pain have to offer?
With Tenderness,
Leslie Platner, RN, LFH, C Hom
Matrix Energetics | Intuitive Healing | Energy Alchemy
📧 LPlatner9@gmail.com | 📞 (530) 559-3921